Let's start with defining BULLYING. Many groups and the CDC define bullying as:
• Attack or intimidation with the intention to cause fear, distress, or harm that is either physical (hitting, punching), verbal (name calling, teasing), or psychological/relational (rumors, social exclusion);
• A real or perceived imbalance of power between the bully and the victim; and
• Repeated attacks or intimidation between the same children over time.
Stopbullying.gov states there are three types of bullying:
There are three types of bullying:
- Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:
- Inappropriate sexual comments
- Threatening to cause harm
- Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes:
- Leaving someone out on purpose
- Telling other children not to be friends with someone
- Spreading rumors about someone
- Embarrassing someone in public
- Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes:
- Taking or breaking someone’s things
- Making mean or rude hand gestures
The CDC defines that there are different types of bullies as well as bystanders:
- Aggressive= most common, hot tempered, belligerent, fearless and lacking in empathy for others
- Passive Bullies=tend to be insecure, less popular than aggressive bully, low self esteem, few like able qualities and will not initiate bullying but will align with more aggressive bullies.
- Victim Bullies= those who have been bullied themselves and feel the need to bully others who are weaker than themselves
The Social Culture cycle of Bullying begins with:
A person or persons intentionally using physical force to threaten or actually impose against another person that could result in likelihood of body harm, injury, psychological harm or deprivation can cause many issues to our society.
It increases health care cost, reduces employment productivity, decreases property values and disrupts social scale of society.
Bullying in its most common form is mostly found within our schools, communities and now even our work force. We will go into these subjects further as we go deeper into Bullying.
Although the word bully is not said in the bible, it is although widely discussed in many scriptures and discussed in many stories in the Bible. David and Goliath is a wonderful story and interpretation of this. Goliath being a giant Philistine warrior as the story states was prideful and boastful enticing one of the Israelites to come an battle him and telling them to send out a champion of their own to decide the outcome in single combat. He wanted to show the Israelites the might of the Philistine. Many know the story that David volunteered and with a sling shot and five stones from a brook, killed and defeated Goliath. Thus the Philistine army fled.
I am not in any way saying we must pick up stones and start throwing them at out aggressors but as David he trusted in the Lord for wisdom and guidance. Sometimes the best thing to do and the wises is get help. Many men in the bible called out to the Lord for his help (David, Moses, Jonah, Samson,Saul, Abraham, Joshua, Jesus and much more).
We have to remember some of these battles God gave instructions what they should do to win. Some battles the children of God needed just to trust in the Lord and the battle would be won without them even lifting a finger.
Although it is difficult the situations we are facing and find it hard to trust because the situations seem bleak we must learn that God would never give us more than we can handle. We must trust in him and know he is God.
The word of God says:
Romans 12:19-20 ESV
Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.”
Psalm 1:1-150:6 ESV
Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; ...
Proverbs 6:16-19 ESVThere are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers
Matthew 5:43-48 ESV
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? ...
Leviticus 19:18 ESV
You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord
These are just a few of the scriptures, there are many more. I encourage you to get into your word and search out ALL these scriptures and meditate on God's word about this very important issue.
I want to end this part with one more thing:
IF YOU ARE BEING BULLIED AND NEED TO SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY PLEASE:
Contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline online or at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
Talk to your counselor, teacher, parents, principal, school superintendent, State Department of Education or U.S. Department of Justice
Ephesians 5:8-14 ESV
For at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light (for the fruit of light is found in all that is good and right and true), and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord. Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. ..